Sunday 26 December 2010

This isn't a grumble :)

I have a relative, who I love lots. As I don't get out a lot, she often asks whether there's anything I need. If I do, I'll make her a little list, and give her the money. We're talking butter, a particular spice, black pepper maybe?

One teeny problem. I have to explain in detail why I need it. If I don't, I don't get it. I'll get a blank look, and my money back. I've tried to be gentle, and I've tried being blunt, and the result is always the same.

A quiet and dignified upset expression, and "well, I saw it, but I couldn't see why...". I've tried saying no, I don't need anything thanks, I've asked why, but I just get that upset look and a shrug. I'm at a loss here folks. Can someone offer me a solution please? Many thanks.

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Update 30/12/2010.

Had a long chat with my friend yesterday, and she explained that she had a desire to protect me. But she also said that she's also had problems with her memory over the last few months that had been a worry to her, but was embarrassed to talk to her GP about it. She's in her early 40's.

It just happens, as she lives locally, we have the same GP, whom I have an excellent relationship with.
I have a GP appointment soon. I don't travel alone, and Bear normally accompanies me. But Bear made a quick call, and hey presto, one double appointment. Nice.

In case you've wondered, I showed Bear and my friend this post, and the comments, and they have no problems with it.



4 comments:

Rarelesserspotted said...

No solutions Wheelie, just part of life's rich tapestry of variety and different personalities and character traits. Gives you something to write about anyways. I hope you had a good holiday time...
Kindest regards

Wheelie said...

Thanks RLS, much appreciated.

I fear I may have said something silly on your blog. I'm sorry :(

I strongly suspect you're right. Thought it was worth asking anyway.

The nice thing is she cares enough to ask. It's the little things that count, cheers :)

Frances Garrood said...

Next time she asks, just say you're making/cooking/baking a surprise. She might just think it's for her (trouble is, you can only do that a coupde of times...)

Happy new year!

Wheelie said...

Tried that Frances :)

I, well.... I'll update the blog.